How mollifying and divine are the promises of two souls, made at the time of their marriage, in front of scared fire with all customs and traditions! The commitment to be with each other in all up’s and down of life is beyond any declaration of promises.
In Hinduism, people believe if the couple take seven rounds of ‘havankund’ (holy fire); the bond gets stronger and remains till death. You must have seen the bride sitting on the right side of the groom before taking her 7 vows, and after finishing the vows, she shifted towards the left side. This simply denotes that her place is in the heart of her husband. At the time of pheras, the groom leads the bride in first four pheras and in the remaining 3, the bride comes forward. Let’s read on to know the importance and meaning of these 7 vows in our Indian culture.
1. First Vow/ Phera
(Pray to their almighty for nourishing prosperity in life and food)
The groom states – “Om esha ekapadi bhava iti prathaman”
Here, the couple appeals to the supreme to bestow all the happiness and blessings in terms of healthy food and purity of thoughts in all the times, ahead of them. Groom commits to his bride; I will always embrace you with happiness and welfare of children.
The bride states- “Dhanam dhaman pade vadet”
My lord, I will humbly obey you, and I will take care of all the finance, food, family and household responsibilities.
2. Second Vow/ Phera
(Pray to the almighty to bestow them with physical and spiritual strength for a good life)
The groom states- “Om oorje jara dastayaha”
Now, when we have taken our second step, fill my soul with courage and strength, so that, we can walk together and protect our children, family and household.
The bride states- “Kutumburn rakshayishyammi sa aravindharam”
You are my lord, and it’s my duty to walk with you till eternity. I will fill you with strength and courage. I will serve you and will nurture our children and family. In return, you will love no other than your wife.
3. Third Vow/ Phera
(Pray for prosperity and safeguarding the wealth to live a satisfied life)
The groom states- “Om rayas santu joradastayaha”
Now, we have completed the third step together. We will stay spiritually committed and my beloved; your presence will grow the prosperity and wealth in my world. I promise to consider all other women as my sisters. I assure you that we would be together and teach the moral values to our children.
The bride states – “Tava bhakti as vadedvachacha”
You are my lord; I promise to love you and devote my life to you. I promise to consider all other men to be my brothers. I will always be a chaste wife and will pursue the virtue of love in true sense.
4. Fourth Vow/ Phera
(Pray to the almighty for peace and joy with mutual trust and love till the last breath of their life)
The groom states –“Om mayo bhavyas jardastaya ha”
My beloved, we have now finished the fourth step together. I urge you to bring contentment, sacredness and auspiciousness in my life. We will respect our elders, and may we have dignified and obedient children.
The bride states –“Lalayami cha pade vadet”
I take a pledge to satisfy you and serve you in all conditions. I will give respect to elders and children of the family.
5. Fifth Vow/ Phera
(Pray to the almighty for well being and happiness of each others’ friends and relatives)
The groom states – “Om prajabhyaha santu jaradastayaha”
Now, when we have completed the fifth step together, I urge you to bless me and gift my life with your presence. Today, I pray for your loved ones (family and friends) and desire to share our prosperity with each other.
The bride states –“Arte arba sapade vadet”
I promise to be with you every moment of life. I will not only share your joy, but also the grief in life. I will not only love you, but also honour you by fulfilling your wishes.
6. Six Vow/ Phera
(The couple pray for their blissful and long life ahead)
The groom states
My heart is full of bliss and pleasure as we have completed our six steps. I wish you to glut my life with success, peace, joy and prosperity.
The bride states –“Yajne home shashthe vacho vadet”
I promise to stand by you at all material prosperity, honourable acts, enjoyment and sorrow or unhappiness. I will participate in all divine and noble acts of life with you.
7. Seventh Vow/ Phera
(The couple pray to the almighty for their mutual companionship, loyalty, long lasting relationship and understanding)
The groom states –“Om sakhi jaradastayahga”
My beloved, now when we have completed this scared ceremony, and completed the last seventh step, we have received the spiritual blessings by the almighty, and I pray for the prosperity of our relationship to be with each other, not only in this life, but also in coming lives. I pray for our friendship and love grow in coming times and I present myself to you.
The bride states – “Attramshe sakshino vadet pade”
As per the sacredness of the divine scriptures and commandments of God, I announce myself your beloved wife. I assure you to fulfil all the promises we have made today. I will be faithful towards you and will love you eternally.
Marriage is a scared commitment of two people, who becomes one soul after the holy ceremony. So, it is required for the bride and groom to fulfil all the vows and live together blissfully.