We all come across different challenges in our life. You agree? I hope you do. Similarly, there are children who face ‘unique’ challenges in their lives. Here I’m talking about those children, who are born with mental, emotional and developmental difficulties. The society calls such children by different-different names, like disable children, exceptional children, children with special needs, etc.
Parents get desperate the moment they learn their child is not like other children and their born child is a – differently-abled child. I agree if you are a parent of a differently-abled child, you undoubtedly have bigger and unique challenges to face. It’s a life-long job for you to have a differently-able child. It’s just that you have to realize like every other child, your child with special needs too is a ‘Gift of God’. Accept and pleasure him with LOVE.
You have to offer special care to the emotional, mental or physical needs of your child at every step of life. Bear in mind that you require every bit of energy to fulfill the task of taking care of your child sincerely. Here are some basic tips to help you cope up when circumstances become hard and find joy in raising your ‘special- needs child’:
Hunt for Support:
Being a parent, this is one thing that you should definitely do. Try to seek immense EMOTIONAL support of your extended families and friends. Networking with parents who face similar challenges will help you to open your heart and discuss issues to someone who can truly understand your circumstances. Such networking also helps to look for physicians with particular training, camps, programs and number of other important resources.
Loving your differently-disable child does not mean spending blindly on his therapies or treatments. Parents spend thousands of rupees exploring treatments, ranging from riding a residence of all environmental and chemical toxins to bio-feedback, swimming with dolphins and even music therapy. Proceed with prudence with these therapies. Before running up your credit-card balance or taking a next mortgage out on your home, do your home-work. Scrutinize these therapies or treatments with a constant question of what proof or evidence indicates its benefit to your child.
Be Wary of Reading Out-of-Date Books:
Don’t pick any book that falls handy. Do check its copyright date. Reading outdated stuff is of no value, you end up gaining false information about your child illness or treatment for the illness.
Interact with your differently-able child in a positive way. Do not feel uncomfortable or ashamed at all when you take your child in the public. How the local public behaves and treats the child rests on you. People take cues from your behavior and attitude towards your child. You have to educate others to appreciate and respect your child’s uniqueness. Correct those who display disappointment or pity towards the child.
Do not build your living totally around your kid. Make your child a part of all those activities that you do; include him in all things that are important in your life. By doing this you mitigate the risk being secluded and enable your child to live full, exciting and active life.
Set up Routines:
Establishing schedules is a lifeline for parents having a child with special needs. Scheduling assists you to perform your job well and get through the week in an organized manner. When you know what is to be done next, you feel energized and motivated towards performing that work.
Boost Child’s Morale:
It is a very important that your child despite being differently-able, live his life with confidence. Many computer and computer supported technologies exist that can improve your child’s learning, language development and eye-hand co-ordination. Make use of such technologies and improve his social interaction and quality of life.
Your job is not trouble-free. At times you do feel that your life is occupied taking care of and fulfilling your child’s needs. Feeling of lonesomeness in the struggle of dealing with your differently- able child surrounds you. Desire to scream loud or run away may hit you. Don’t worry, such feelings are absolutely common. In this condition, what you need to do is- finding outlet for your irritation and frustration.
They are perfect, special and different from others…..Embrace them.